Today is our one year wedding anniversary. I have been asked more times than I can count, what we are going to do for our Anniversary. I capitalize it because most people treat it like a holiday. I suppose in some ways it is. As a couple, you have survived another year. You have loved another year. You have grown another year. But, to me it’s just another day.
Perhaps it’s because even though we have only been married a year, my husband and I have been together for 16 years or so (Honestly, the only way I remember that is by counting back how old the kids were when we met). It’s not that I don’t value our relationship, our marriage or think that celebrating is unimportant. Rather, I value the everyday more. I value our everyday more.
I could give you a list of what makes a great relationship, but the truth is what works for me may not work for you. What makes us happy in our marriage, might make yours miserable.
What I can say is: marriage does not change your relationship. Who you are, or the other person is does not change that day. It only makes your commitment official on a piece of paper. Yes, you are vowing to whatever God you believe in, and doing it in front of your friends and family, but the values of your relationship don’t change. If that value wasn’t there the day before, it’s not going to be there the next.
So, what to do on your anniversary? If both of you are happy, who cares! I know I am happy curled up on my couch, drinking coffee and typing away. My husband is in the other room doing his own thing, he’s happy too. Maybe later we will go out for lunch, maybe we will take a nap instead. We are okay with that. And that’s all that matters.